What type of gift holds the most value? Is it the object itself or something intangible? With the holidays approaching, you may be searching for the best deals on a gift for a loved one. Although this past year has been especially challenging across the globe, we must remain grateful for our blessings. Give the greatest gift of all to inspire lifelong happiness, wellbeing, and joy.
The most precious gift we can offer anyone is our attention. When mindfulness embraces those we love, they will bloom like flowers.Thich Nhat Hanh
When I was a child, I remember hearing my Grandmother saying her infamous statement, “Love is.” I always wondered why she said it in that way. “Love is… what?” I wondered. But the more I observed and listened to her, the more I understood that her example was in doing. Love can have many meanings, but it is strongest as a verb.
My Grandma was the epitome of what it means to love. She gained no personal benefit from all of the sacrifices and everything she did for her family other than knowing it made us happy. Love is being completely selfless in your actions while doing whatever it takes to show someone you care about them. Love is displayed in your actions, no matter how great or small. You make the choice to bestow it as a gift every day.
That being said, you may not always personally care for something that a loved one finds exciting or wants to talk about. However, that does not mean you shouldn’t be more receptive to their interests. When an older relative begins telling you a story that you’ve already heard on multiple occasions, instead of getting impatient — just listen wholeheartedly. You never know when it might be the last time.
Sometimes we can be so immersed in our own thoughts that it prevents us from completely listening to others. Train your mind to become selfless when dictating your actions. Simply being present and showing that you care can often mean more to someone than anything else. All you need to do is devote some time to mindfully listen to what they want to share.
As I mentioned in a previous post, you must fully listen in an unbiased manner without the intent to interject with your own opinion. Let them know that you genuinely care about what they have to say, even if it is something that may not normally pique your interest. Mindful presence is paramount.
You will find that your life is often richer when you surround yourself with others who have had different experiences or perspectives than yours. It may open your mind to new concepts that you had never considered before — ultimately helping you to grow into a better and more compassionate individual.
What gift were you born with, that you are not using?Tabitha Brown
Tabitha Brown raises an excellent query about sharing your unique gift and talents with others. Perhaps you are musically inclined, have artistic abilities, or a witty sense of humor. You have the potential to provide a wealth of wellbeing simply by giving of yourself. Maybe you are wondering what you could possibly give someone who already has so much? Rather than worrying about what physical gift to give your loved ones, be present. Enjoy the moment. The most memorable gift is your time spent together.
The value of a gift is not found in the object but rather the experience. My fondest memories have always been those which were shared with loved ones. Going on motorcycle rides with my dad, learning about art and nature with my mom, and playing video games with my brother were each a gift in itself. Those experiences helped to build a lifelong bond from the joy we shared together.
Even if I cannot physically be with my loved ones, I am content knowing that they are happy and healthy. Distance does not diminish a strong relationship. No matter how far away, we can still share our love with one another. I am so very grateful for all of the genuinely wonderful individuals in my life. Our loved ones are the most valuable blessings. Now is the best time to detach yourself from materialistic traditions and focus on what truly matters. Take a moment to practice gratitude and reciprocate kindness daily. The greatest gift is found within the present moment, and you decide who to share it with.