Do you remember your response when asked, “What do you want to be when you grow up?” Did you have a clear idea of what you envisioned, or was it somewhat vague? The younger version of myself always struggled with deciding on one specific answer. I had many interests and aspirations — surely, I cannot be defined by one single role. Your quality of life is comprised of the series of habits that you form over time. The most important question to ask yourself is not what, but rather who do you want to become?
You do not rise to the level of your goals, you fall to the level of your systems.James Clear
Over a year ago, I never thought I would be getting compliments on my face mask — let alone wearing one. But here we are, navigating a pandemic to the best of our ability. Unexpected challenges in life often prove how adaptable and resilient we can be.
Whenever my brother or I wrecked our bikes and got hurt as kids, my dad would joke about having to throw us in the garbage. We laughed about it rather than dwelling on the pain. My parents taught me to always make the best of whatever situation I find myself in, and most importantly — learn from past mistakes. Similarly, I intend on practicing positive lifelong habits. Improve yourself, inspire others.
Some have asked how I’m able to remain calm during moments of extreme chaos and stress. The answer is simple. Your state of mind dictates every other element in your life. If you are at peace with yourself, it is much easier to maintain the patience, compassion, and understanding required to be at peace with others as well.
Small, positive habits and interactions can create a profound impact — not only in your life but the lives of everyone you meet. If you are feeling overwhelmed with current circumstances, do not try to take on everything at once. Focus on your breathing. Begin from within. Alter your internal dialogue. When you feel good about yourself, you will embody that emotion — therefore illuminating it onto others. Integrity is invaluable. Taking a little time out of your day to do something beneficial for someone else is always worthwhile.
Every action you take is a vote for the type of person you wish to become.James Clear
I never really cared much for motivational speakers. They always seemed overly enthusiastic and cliché in my experience. However, James Clear is an exception. His genuine storytelling and relatable, real-life explanations are both intriguing and inspirational. Needless to say, I was equally fascinated and motivated after listening to just one chapter of his book: Atomic Habits. I highly recommend giving it a read or listen on Audible.
We are habitual beings by nature. Some of your habits might be producing positive results, while others may lead to less than desirable outcomes. Within his book, James illustrates how to implement the best habit-building (and breaking) practices in your life. The first step is to make your good habits easily accessible. In addition, your bad habits should be more difficult to accomplish — so that you are discouraged from repeating them in the future.
I discussed how a Dopamine Detox can be useful for those who wish to curb an unhealthy addiction in a previous post. For example, removing social media and other time-wasting apps from your phone can eliminate temptation, bad habits, and dopamine dependency.
Be intentional in what you want to achieve. Practice regularly, and your results will reflect the effort you expend. Consider your own daily routines. Which habits are currently benefiting you, and what can you improve?
Create an environment where doing the right thing is as easy as possible.James Clear
Who do you admire? Is there anyone whom you aspire to be more like? Take note of their actions. If possible, ask them about their daily habits — which most likely contribute to their admirable qualities. Consider the small positive habits that you can implement to become similarly aligned in your life.
Sometimes we focus so much on our future plans and goals that we forget to be fully aware and mindful of the present moment. Pay attention to your habits and behavior. Ultimately, the title or profession you select does not hold more value than the type of person you choose to become.
Instead of worrying about a defining label for yourself, channel your energy into creating positive daily habits. Everything will fall into place once you have established strong roots. Over time, small positive habits serve as the foundation for success. You will continue to grow and learn like a tree branching toward the sunlight — evolving your specific daily habits throughout the course of a lifetime.
Appreciate the good attributes of your personality. Acknowledge who you are becoming. If you are not happy with certain aspects of yourself, then incorporating small positive habits is your answer to personal growth. Transform a challenge into an opportunity. Express gratitude for what you can do. Choose a resilient mindset, and alter your perspective. When you practice these positive habits daily, you will turn your aspirations into reality.